Self Care

Your Self Care Shower Routine: How to Relax

Having a self care shower is easily the number one way I decompress. Whether you’ve had a rough day at work or just need some peace, spending time having water run down your face is an easy fix! Establishing a good self-care shower routine is essential to get some time to yourself.

In this fast-paced world, we often don’t take the time to enjoy ourselves doing daily tasks. Everything, even our self care routine, is done quickly.

What if I told you that you can have the best shower routine in the world, in just a few steps?

Self care showers will be revolutionary in your life, mark my words!

Without further ado, here are the steps you need to take to achieve the best self care shower ever!

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Eliminate ALL Distractions for a Nice Self Care Shower

It’s so hard to relax in the shower, especially when you’re constantly reminded of the things you need to do!

The first, and probably most important step in your self care shower routine, is to do your best to eliminate all distractions.

The most common distractions you’ll probably encounter while trying to get just one ounce of peace are:

  • Your cell phone! Social media notifications, work emails and random phone calls distract you from enjoying your self care time.
  • People you live with! Whether they’re being loud, knocking on the door or just barging into the bathroom, you’re on edge.

There are ways to shut out those distractions, even just for a little bit.

Put your phone on silent. You deserve to take a 15-minute shower without being reminded of the things you need to do at work, or future plans. What’s that saying… ignorance is bliss?

Tell everyone you’re taking a shower. Make a point to say that you’ll be busy showering for a bit, and that if they need anything, to wait until you get out. Also, if you’ve got kids, your partner or Netflix is your best friend!

Clean Your Bathroom

If you’ve ever stepped foot in a frat house bathroom, I don’t have to tell you that a clean bathroom is better than a dirty bathroom.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, good for you!

The point is, you don’t want to be feeling icky when you’re taking your self care shower. Even noticing little things like hair on the shower wall and toothpaste splatters on your mirror can be disconcerting.

Do a quick cleanup of your bathroom.

I know you want to get to your shower as quickly as possible, so make your clean up super quick too!

Here’s a list of areas you should focus on:

  • Get rid of any dirty clothes or towels that are lingering in the bathroom
  • Wipe your mirror and counter surface
  • Make sure the inside of your toilet is clean
  • Get rid of that nasty garbage
  • Get rid of shower hair and do a quick rinse of the shower.

This shouldn’t take too long, and the time it takes might vary depending on the state of your bathroom. However, it’s worth it when you can wash yourself in a cleaner bathroom!

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Do Some Lymphatic Drainage

While this part is optional for your self care shower routine, if you have a dry brush, use it!

A dry brush can be bought at any big store, including WalMart or Amazon.

When you use it before your shower, you’re helping your body with lymphatic drainage.

Your lymphatic system is a big part of your immune system. It works with your cardiovascular system, and has the job of getting rid of your body’s waste and toxins. You want that!

By using the dry brush on your body, you’re helping increase the circulation in your lymphatic system so that waste can peace out from your body.

If you’re new to dry brushing, here is a great dry brushing tutorial that is easy to follow.

Disclaimer: Dry brushing may irritate your skin if you have hypersensitive skin. I recommend trying it out on a small part of your skin before going all in with dry brushing.

Crank Up a Podcast or Relaxing Music During Your Self Care Shower

You don’t have to shower in silence if you don’t want to!

However, what you should be listening to is something uplifting and/or funny.

That means NO true crime podcasts (I mean, unless it relaxes you!). I love listening to funny podcasts to lighten the mood.

Depending on your mood, put on a funny podcast or a calming music station before you start showering.

The goal is to relax you. Laughing releases stress, so it counts!

Sometimes, listening to something else is just the thing you need to get out of your own headspace.

Hop into the Shower and Be Mindful

If you’ve read some of my previous articles, you know how much I love mindfulness.

If you’re unfamiliar with it, mindfulness is the act of being in the present moment. It helps with stress management and anxiety.

A trick I like is to use your 5 senses.

So, how can you use mindfulness techniques in the shower?

  • Sight: Look at what’s around you in the shower. What do you see?
  • Smell: Are there any nice smells in the shower? Does your shampoo smell like anything?
  • Taste: I really hope this doesn’t happen, but did you get shampoo in your mouth?
  • Hearing: Do you hear the water trickle down your body?
  • Touch: What different sensations can you feel in the shower?
Being mindful during your self care shower

By focusing on what’s happening in the moment, you’re avoiding stress and helping yourself get calm!

Focus on Cleaning Yourself

Now that you’re being mindful, you can get down to business and start cleaning yourself as you would normally in the shower.

I remember being a kid and hating showers. Now, as an adult, I love getting in the shower because getting clean is great! It’s like starting fresh.

Use some scented soap (if you don’t have sensitive skin) and a loofah to scrub away dead skin cells and all the built-up grossness from the day.

Here are the benefits you’re going to see when you take your time to do this:

  • Aromatherapy! The nice smells of your soap or body wash feels great and can help you destress. (I like THIS ONE).
  • Blood flow! Using a loofah stimulates more blood flow to your skin, which helps with giving it oxygen and getting rid of waste.

See? Your self care shower is off to a great start already!

Give Yourself a Head Massage

I don’t know about you, but I love the feeling of a nice head massage.

Scalp massages are useful to reduce tension and release all that stress from the day.

The best part? You can give yourself a scalp massage while shampooing your hair!

Don’t pull at your hair, though!

Run your fingers through your hair, then grab your hair to tug at your scalp.

Keep doing this for your whole scalp!

After Your Self Care Shower, Take Care of Your Face!

As a continuation of your lymphatic drainage using a dry brush, now’s the time to get that circulation going on your face!

A facial massage technique that allows for good lymphatic drainage is the gua sha technique. Using slow, repeated movements on your oiled up face, you can help lymphatic drainage out!

If you’re new to this massage technique, I recommend Nerida Joy’s gua sha tutorial as a good tool for beginners.

Not only does it help with your circulation, you will feel so relaxed.

Moisturize and Chill Out

The very last step to this whole self care shower process is to get comfy!

Grab your favourite lotion and lather up your entire body. I recommend this vanilla lotion (and it’s only 3 Canadian dollars on Amazon?!).

Then, put your comfiest clothes on!

I find that the lotion gets soaked up by your skin even more when you’re wearing your comfiest sweater and sweatpants, but you be the judge.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the trick to put lotion on your feet and put on fuzzy socks to help it soak in, and this is the same idea, but for your whole body!

Implement Self Care More Often in Your Day

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Self care showers are great, but what’s even better is taking extra moments to take care of yourself.

Even if it’s just 5 minutes spent alone reading your favourite book, taking that extra time for yourself adds up to you being less stressed and happier.

I have an entire post outlining the 6 types of self care you need to know about if you need some inspiration!

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Aim to have every shower you take be a self care shower! I truly hope that these tips can help you decompress after a stressful day at work.

TELL ME: What are your tips for a great self care shower?

Peace out!

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